I don’t want to be rich, I want to be free

I don’t want to be rich, I want to be free

The poor weather this week caught me slightly off-guard and put a stop to my original plans of tidying up the back garden. Instead; I felt it had been an adequate time since having read The Millionaire Next Door and so with the rain lashing outside and the knowledge that my garage was slowly flooding.. I settled down on the sofa for a re-read of this absolute classic.

Although almost 2 decades old now; the research, stories and information given throughout this excellent book continue to hold value better than London property prices. For years it has been seen as one of the ‘founding fathers’ of the reducing expenses to boost savings rate mindset that so many personal finance strategies rely on. If you haven’t read it yet, I strongly recommend you obtain a copy through entirely legitimate methods and take a look.

The Prodigious Accumulators of Wealth

Hailed as the heros of the study and seen as inspiration for others, the PAWs are an extremely self disciplined and successful bunch who continually live below their means in order to accumulate surprisingly levels of wealth relative to actual incomes. While I initially aspired to become this grouping myself after first read-through.. I found myself beginning to question it this time round.

Here we have a group of successful individuals who by their own admission have already way surpassed the financial independence break-even point and yet seek to continue accumulating. Despite having enough to easily support their lifestyles and families.. they still dedicate their lives to the workplace and increasing their personal wealth. Don’t get me wrong, it is a fantastic achievement and gives credit to their hard work and ambition.. but is it right?

In the same way that many consumers today identify themselves and their self-worth with material possessions.. the Prodigious Accumulators of Wealth seem to identify themselves with the size of their net wealth and continue their desires to increase it far beyond a lifestyle sustaining level. Whilst on first read through I was in awe of the 55year old multi-millionaire who still drove his banged up old car to the office everyday.. This time I began to question why he continues to do so. Is it that work has become such an important aspect of his life and his self-worth measurement through wealth accumulation that to retire would seem a failure?

Do you want to be rich, or do you want to be free?

There’s an old saying that you either work to live or live to work. The general idea being that some people see work as an endurance test needed to be passed each day in order to sustain themselves, whereas others view it as a big part of their lives and may even enjoy heading to the office each day. These polar opposites perhaps neglect that many of us may actually enjoy our jobs whilst still seeking to leave the workplace. I personally find myself falling firmly into this middle ground despite the occasional complaints!

People who live to work will almost certainly find themselves more successful and wealthy than those who might fall into the middle ground. If someone enjoys their jobs, loves their colleagues and lives for the challenges their work presents them everyday.. are they going to care that their lifestyle could be sustained from their accumulated wealth already? Unlikely. These people, much like the PAWs, work for reasons other than sustaining a lifestyle and so perhaps it is harder for them to quantify the ‘exit point’ for themselves?

If those who work to live are generalised as being trapped in the workplace, having to endure a hated job just to pay the mortgage and feed the children… perhaps these who live to work are equally trapped by their own desires to continue working and accumulating?

And so whilst reading the tales of the ever-accumulating PAWs I began to feel sorry for them, trapped in their own version of the workplace survival cycle. They may well be rich… but are they really free?

 

21 thoughts on “I don’t want to be rich, I want to be free

  1. I can understand why the founders of companies might want to go on till they drop as the company is “their baby”, but people who work for someone else … why do it for a moment longer than you need to? Also, I suspect that the “multi-millionaires still driving to work in their battered old cars” probably tend to have p*****-off partners and children who hardly see them and wish they’d ease up. Or is that a bit harsh? … Anyway, basically could not agree with you more, Early Retirement Guy – freedom is worth far more.

  2. Good article, Guy.

    I think you’re right. But I would add I think it is an easy mindset to fall into. After all, if you have got yourself into the mindset of asset accumulation you have had to discipline yourself to work hard (that is earn enough), spend little and save hard. All three ultimately have blended into one another as a core part of the process of asset accumulation. To switch one of those three off is actually as hard as one another.

    It is not right or wrong. However, I think that asset accumulators–especially without specific goals for what is to be achieved other than accumulating those assets–can easily get trapped by the process itself and ALL its parts.

    Just a thought. But I can see how that could happen!

    1. Thanks DD. I kind of experienced it myself when saving up for the initial house deposit.. for a few years we had been in ultra save save save mode then when it came time to actually pay the deposit I had a surge of reluctance to actually part with that accumulated mass, even though it was exactly what I’d been saving for! Once you get into that mindset, it is had to drop out of it even for something better sometimes.

  3. Hi Guy,

    Nice topic. Thank you for sharing it.

    I haven’t read the book, but it’s been recommended by many people.

    For me, I feel there are too many unknowns in this discussion to draw a suitable conclusion about the PAW’s. I would assume some are unhappy and others are very happy.

    Wealth is one part of life, and the PAW’s could be considered by many to have conquered that area. To the PAW it might look different. For example, Would we say Chris Froome has going too far with his bicycle fitness? Or is he a deeply happy and satisfied individual? (Easy answer based on today).

    For true happiness we have to consider all facets of life – body, connection to oneself, relationships, self love, learning/development etc.

    If the PAW’s are driving to create more wealth, that in itself is not good or bad. How are they performing in the other areas of their life, and how much joy do they gain from work (I’m glad you mentioned that above).

    I see no issue with wealth accumulation, as I compare it to any other progression in life like – learning, relationships, and giving etc.

    However, if someone only ever pursues one goal in life – let’s take wealth – to the detriment of the other areas of life – like relationships, health, emotions etc. That individual is likely to become unhappy overall.

    I don’t feel sorry for the PAW’s, as they ultimately have a choice, like we all do, to spend their time and energy into any aspect of their life.

    I want to be free like you Guy, but much like D2 expressed above, I think it will take some time to transition out of an accumulation phase. I’m likely to be accumulating to some degree my whole life. Right now, it’s one of my biggest goals because it leads me to freedom. Once I become FI, I’d like to think it will be much further down my priority list, but I’ll still accumulate. As long as I am spending time developing in all the other areas of my life I see no issue with continued accumulation.

    Thanks again for raising the topic!

    Cheers
    Huw

    1. I highly recommend reading it. It’s quite heavy on the figures and tables but most of it can be glossed over for the conclusions afterwards. Some of the stories they tell about the various people they meet are quite interesting and entertaining.

      An interesting point about considering wealth accumulation as a life goal in itself rather that a means to reach other goals. I guess in that regard they certainly are achieving their own goals if, as you say, its not at the expense of others.

  4. Interesting analysis of a book, which is on my list to read before the end of the year.

    As Huw says, the PAWs have got a choice and they choose to continue to work/accumulate wealth. I would have thought if they hated the job and the people they work with, they would choose to stop.

    Us pre-FI grunts don’t have that luxury so need to carry on at the grindstone until we have ‘enough’.

    There’s always the fear that even your ‘enough’ won’t be enough (plus life throws unexpected things at you), so some sort of wealth accumulation is likely to continue although whether that would be trundling into my old job every day is debatable!

    1. I doubt any of the PAWs mentioned hate their jobs at all! And they do of course have the choice and means to stop.. however I do wonder if perhaps some have been running on that threadmill for so long that to step off would seem an impossibility?

  5. I have always wondered about this; you can’t take it with you and yet there are many who seem to fear retiring, along the lines of ‘how will I fill the empty hours’.

    Part of the trouble is that thirty/forty years is a lot of life, and you start down this road as a young adult not even thirty. It’s formative and shapes expectations, you don’t realise it, some of these things are simply the result of doing something every working day for three of four decades.

    I’ve seen a few people struggle with retiring since I left work. Every retiree needs to be kind to themselves and ideally not take any life-changing decisions in that first six months – unwinding the accumulated habits takes time. I’ve found it liberating – in particular the freedom to do as I wish and the freedom from following other people’s agendas is fanatstic. Yet I have come to understand that for some people these things gave structure to their days and life, without that framework the compass spins and knows no North. And to be honest, if you enjoy it, then why not, for some people it is playing the game that matters, not the score.

  6. I can empathise with the article and the comments. I think one of the key messages that I’d have that being FI doesn’t mean you don’t work, it can mean you don’t have to work for money. It means you can choose when, where, what and for who you work.
    I love the sub heading, through my twenties I worked as little as possible and lived on the bones of my bum because rather than have the money, I wanted the time. The time to chase my sporting goals. The decade (well actually a decade and a half by the end) was great fun with great experiences and without particularly realising it at the time, a series of very valuable lessons.
    Time has to be bought, but with the right approach as shown in this and other blogs, it can be bought relatively cheaply.

  7. Very interesting. I have thoughts about this from time to time myself… Will I be able actually retire when I reach that point? Or, will I continue to work out of fear of not having enough? Only time will tell if I’ll be able to take that leap of faith.

    Good luck to all FI achievers in the future!

    ADD

    1. Classic ‘one more year’ symptom! MMM has some great bits on this along with many solutions. The normal conclusion though is why does retiring mean you are totally unable to ever earn again? You could always work part time, take up income generating hobbies, reduce expenses or.. eventually.. return to work? Either way; at least you haven’t kept working for longer than you had to.

  8. Having read the millionaire next door, I think most of the examples in the books are of people who ended up owning their business. I assume they felt they had a responsibility to keep the business going on, in particular if they had employees who actually relied on the job.
    These entrepreneurs were at a level where their wealth came from their own business, their “baby”, at least for many of the example. I don’t think you can easily compare that to one of us, grinding at their 9-to-5.
    If my wealth came from my own business, my own idea, I would probably not stop at the “ok to retire” level, because that would not be the point anymore. IF I remember correctly, the book emphasizes a lot on people driven by passion?

    1. Both my father and brother own and operate their own businesses (well.. my father does it all from his laptop by the side of a pool in the south of France!) so I can appreciate the passion of wanting to see their businesses grow and succeed. However I think some parallels can still be drawn, for whatever reason; these business owners continue to work everyday. They might not have to, and they might love it, but they still do so. I wonder if perhaps at least some of them might change their minds if they stopped working for 6 months and instead spent all that free time pursuing hobbies and time with the family instead?
      Hard to tell, I just thought it was an interesting idea and an interpretation of some of this famous book that i hadn’t seen anyone else propose before.

  9. PAWs generally enjoy what they are doing and have simple/cheap so its no big loss fro them to continue what they are doing successfully and enjoyably

    You (and other financial independence bloggers) manifestly hate your finance/engineering/IT jobs some/most of the time

    You also might be overestimating how much effort it is to keep some businesses running when you are top gorilla and you have people working for you – it might only require a few hours a few days a week

    1. I think you’ve missed my point; It’s not so much that they enjoy their job and I hate mine (I dont!) but more than they are so used to working and increasing their wealth that it becomes the main reason that they do continue working.
      An overestimation perhaps, but I do recall in the book they seemed to be suggesting that most days were spent working rather than putting in a few phone calls to management from the golf course.

      All this is just an interpretation of the book’s findings ;)

  10. I am 55 and in the last few years reached the possibility to retire but did not!
    It is a complex subject and blogs like this help a lot! I think to carry on working is absolutely NOT about wanting to acquire more cash or trinkets, whatever. I think financially independent people, like all people, need a meaning to their lives, working in whatever way, does give meaning to a lot of peoples lives. The importance about reaching FIRE is that you have the CHOICE to do what you want to do, rather than having to keep doing the same thing, which is usually working.
    In China, where I live, I know several business leaders who would like to retire but feel a responsibility to their staff and their families, so they carry on working. Finding a stable, trustworthy, replacement is VERY challenging here!
    The other underestimated aspect is that if you are a guy, your wife may not appreciate you being around the house so much, and would rather her “man” carry on working. SOME women still like the traditional view of the man i.e. to go out and “hunt” every day!
    I think MMM has a lead on most of us, he has a wonderful lifestyle, something to aspire to!
    I read the “Millionaire next door” a couple of years ago, a very good, recommended, read.

  11. Great book and great concept. I like to think of saving money as “buying freedom”. Freedom is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. Work to live for sure.

    Often we get stuck just accumulating wealth for the sake of it.

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